I Was Too Good A Friend To Ever Be His Girlfriend.

Friendship, one of the most prized relation you make in your life, or rather a relation that makes your life beautiful. A true, close friendship is hard to make and difficult to sustain, more so when the two of them are of opposite gender. A slight onset of emotion love can complicate things beyond expected. And soon ‘we are just best friends’ got moulded into this new category of ‘friend zone.’

“Ek Ladka Aur Ek Ladki Kabhi Dost Nahi Ho Sakte” Unke liye Friend zone banaya gaya hai. 

Friend Zone has become such a poor joke. Guys laugh about it, share memes on it, make fun of each other all the time. Then there’s name calling that follows, the feeling of being let down or rejected for being a ‘friend only’ is never pleasing. But there’s a strong misconception that only guys get friend-zoned, bloody hell not! I like you just ‘as a friend’ gets slapped to girls as well. Girls get friend-zoned too, here I am presenting the other side…

This happens most of the times when you’ve too many guy friends. Being surrounded by guys most of the time, you reach the comfort level of referring to each other with meanest expletives, casually talking about sex, eyeing the girl with a hot butt and elbow nudging the guy to check out too! There is no awkward. You become a part of the gang so much so that eventually they stop considering you as a ‘girl’. Arey tu toh galtise ladki ban gayi hai, Bhai hai tu apna, Ladkiyon jaise nakhre na kar become as familiar as your ringtone. You’re now a part of the Bro Code, except while using the washroom you enter the ladies section.

But then there is Him, someone you want to notice You. I am proud of him flaunting me as his best-friend. But I want more. I like how he bro fists me, hugs me, but I don’t mind a tighter hug from him. It will feel good. I am making these thought bubbles and then it pricks when he enthusiastically calls me up to talk about his latest crush. He is asking me tips to impress her. Here I am impressed by him, the way he is and he wants to act fake for someone else. I can’t even…. I leave it at that… I am a friend first and he needs me!

I have got friend-zoned several times, sometimes for the most ridiculous reasons. He told me you’re too open, you know too much about me! Isn’t that a good thing? We won’t have to pretend! 

Then someone told me you’re too modern in your thoughts I want someone simple. 

You’re too smart, I want someone dumb.

Another said I drink and I drink hard drinks. So? Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a drunk date? Girls should only drink beer. I know of a friend who was told you drink whiskey, we can’t date! Well, then Fuck Off literally by yourself!

Then the most common sugarcoated way of rejection which I don’t know if makes me feel better or hurts more. You’re such a good friend of mine, I’d never lose a friend like you, let’s just stay friends. Right now should I be proud of the fact that I am so important in this friendly relationship or feel dejected that I’ll never have this converted into a relationship? I am the one he turns to for advice, I am the one he shares everything with, I am the one who knows of his problems, I am the one who cares for him but I am Not the one who can do all this beyond friendship.

Once again when he gets along with his new girlfriend, I am there to hear of how problematic she is. I am there when she is too busy to meet or they aren’t talking because they’d a fight. Be it choosing his clothes for a date, telling him what looks good on him, suggesting a gift for her or planning her a surprise, I am just a call away.

You guys want us to be around late till the party gets over but not a girlfriend who stays out so late in the night, drinking and chilling with her guy friends. You guys want us to dress up and look pretty as a girlfriend but as a best-friend you’re okay with my casual jeans and messy hair. You guys are okay with me mouthing bad-words in my conversations with you, but as a girlfriend I need to be decent, not use bad language. Hatt BC. You guys want your girl friends as carefree and cool but your girlfriends as sweet, cute, lovey-dovey, romantic and sanskaari! Kya Chutyagiri Hai be? Don’t mind ha!

That’s when I feel better about being in the friend zone. At least I can have the drinks of my choice! At least I drink down the torture of not being able to show my feelings for you.

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Remind yourself, for you have learnt that friendship comes first and have ruined some friendships in the name of love in the past. So at least in that sense do not lose the friend he has found in you and move on in your friend zone. Trust me, when he breaks up with his ‘love that was going to last forever’ he will call you first to talk about it.

Cheers. Go have that shot and be proud of being his best-friend that even his girlfriend cannot replace. And even you’ve been replaced, he wasn’t your truest friend either.